This time of year always seems to be a time of change for me. Two years ago was when I realized that the chapter of my life titled “Failed Musician and Scholar” was over. On this day last year I got out of the worst relationship I have ever been in. It was at that point that I realized that I was better off single and happy than taken and miserable. It was also when I resolved to stop failing and start succeeding.
A year has passed since then and a lot has changed. I’ve loved. I’ve lost. I quit my job only to have another one two months later. I couch surfed. I travelled. I moved to a brand new town. And I finally became financially independent. The last year has been a whirlwind. I’ve gone through so many changes my head still hasn’t stopped spinning. I finally managed to succeed though.
In July I set some goals for myself. One was to be done working as a DJ/Bartender by the beginning of the year. The other was to be making $100 a day. I quit my job at the bar on January 9th. In my current job I make around $100 a day. Setting goals is powerful Achieving those goals is what makes everything worth it.
There have been a few takeaways from the last year as well.
1. Drastic changes happen when you are fed up emotionally with a situation.
This time last year I had just gotten out of an emotionally draining and hurtful situation. I resolved that I would never again let myself be in a situation where I was miserable.
I put in my two weeks at my job the day after my family got back from Mexico. I had just spent a week watching my brothers throw money around while I had 7 bucks to my name. I came back with resolve. I knew that the only way I was going to be able to live the life I wanted would be to quit my job.
Both of those situations were times when I had finally had enough. Both times were also driven by emotion, not logic. The first time I was emotionally raw, the second, embarrassed and frustrated. We can try and convince ourselves to change all we want, but unless it is backed by a strong emotional need or desire, then it probably won’t happen.
2. Setting goals is admirable. What you do with those goals is what makes you succeed.
I have set goals in the past that I never achieved. Last summer things changed. Instead of setting my goals and then going about my daily life, I made sure I immersed myself in them. I went over them every morning and evening. After a month I got so sick of seeing my goals I almost couldn’t face them. By then they were burned into my subconscious, and things started to happen. In the next few days I’ll be going into how I’ve managed to harness the power of setting and achieving goals.
3. You can be happy doing anything.
I loved working at the bar. As my time there was coming to a close, I realized that the part that I enjoyed the most was working with customers. I knew that if I found a job working with people, then I would be happy in that job as well. So I found a job in sales. And while I am working towards getting out of having a “real” job, I’m still doing something that I love.
4. If you want to succeed, get a coach.
I started learning about internet marketing a year ago. I’ve tried numerous things, all of them have not turned out how I had hoped. I do value the learning that I’ve gone through in the last year, but I would take less “book” knowledge for more success. In the last month I’ve started to go through Alex Jeffreys coaching program. This blog has seen more visitors (20+) and has more comments (50+) than any other blog I’ve put up. And I’ve only been doing this for 3 weeks. I also have a path to follow that others have followed and been successful with. If you have an area of your life you want to succeed at and don’t have a coach, get one. It will be worth it.
When I was in college I ran track and cross country. My last season I ended up racing the 800. The 800 may be the most difficult race to run. It’s too short to be a distance “run” but too long for an all out sprint. The amount of pain you go through in those 2 minutes is intense. Every time I stood at the starting line I would mentally prepare myself for what was about to come. I knew what was going to happen. I had to harden my resolve and accept my fate. It was something that I had to do. I’m facing the next year with the same apprehension. I have big plans and more changes are coming. The pain will be intense, but I know that it is something that I must do.